CATEGORY:QUESTION/ ANSWER ------------------------------ INSIDE GRENADA SUNDAY May 06,2007 by Karasi Dear Karasi, There is this guy that really digs me and I like him quite a lot too. I am still at school but he is working. We have not had sex as yet but he keeps telling me that when we do it, he does not want to wear a condom because it takes away the pleasure. He says he knows what he is doing and I do not have to worry about getting pregnant. What do you think I should do? KK ***************************** Dear KK, Here it is again, the old “It doesn’t feel as good” excuse. To some extent this is true, the barrier can prevent stimulation that may result from not wearing a condom. However, think about this: which would you prefer, (a) the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection or pregnancy, or, (b) 2 or 3 minutes of pleasure, 9 months and 18 years of wondering why you didn’t insist he wore one, or spending the rest of your life and money on a disease that has no cure. Condoms can lower the chance of getting a sexually transmitted disease and can, if worn and used properly, totally erase the risk of getting pregnant. Take note that there is a 1% chance of getting pregnant. In addition, some sexually transmitted infections can be contracted without penetration, for example herpes, Chlamydia and syphilis. These diseases can be caught even if no penetration occurs. Most likely your beau will want to utilize the withdrawal method. Many people believe that by withdrawing just before ejaculation is a safe form of contraception. Be advised that it has been proven that there sometimes is semen in pre-ejaculation fluid. You can still get pregnant. His pleasure is significant, however you have to put your health and your future in perspective. “No glove; No love” – it’s as simple as that. He has the right to refuse to wear one, you have the right to say no and stick with it. I know you like him, but is he really worth the risk? Think about it. Be Strong, Be Love, Be You Karasi You can send your questions/ concerns to Karasi at blu_poet@hotmail.com